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This is a fairly new column on Stuff - "Over the Rainbow"

Latest entry - about there needing to be a "guy" and a "girl" in gay relationships.

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This was my comment:

"What a curiously old-fashioned view of relationships. When I was in a relationship with a woman, it was because I was attracted to a WOMAN, and she obviously felt the same way! We had no desire to play "roles", neither of us ever took a more masculine role. Neither of us was the breadwinner, neither of us took the solely dominant role in bed...it baffles me to think of trying to structure a relationship along those lines.

I frequently find myself vaguely annoyed with this column - it might be that I'm not the right kind of queer, but it doesn't reflect me or my culture at all. "

Has anyone else found themselves ragey at the column? It seems so limp-wristed, like an awful charicature of what it means to be gay. I mean, yes, the author is obviously part of that insular All Gay Men Together crowd, which is a different subsection of queer culture, but I guess I kind of hoped a new queer blog would be more reflective of, oh, EVERYONE ELSE.

(Note me being more queer when I get to be angry about it. Granted, this column includes equally baffling stereotypes about heterosexual relationships, but I LOVE RIGHTEOUS RAGE.)

(I...also love my boyfriend carrying my bags for me when we go shopping. I mean, I protest, and try to wrestle half of them back off him, but still! Chivalry! <333 I am possibly being slightly hypocritical.)